I didn't know I was in an Abusive Relationship

The problem is that Domestic Violence encompasses so much more than punching, kicking, choking, slapping, pushing or sexual assault.

If we gain knowledge about domestic violence (DV) from the media then we are left with the view that this pervasive horror concerns only physical and sexual violence. It’s understandable, of course. Physical and sexual violence are large, loud and newsworthy (to borrow a current journalistic term in the wake of the media’s focus on the Deputy Prime Minister). In short, this ugly stuff sells, gains social media clicks, likes and reactions, is shared and retweeted, flipped and pinned.

However the truth is that often many don’t realise they are in an abusive relationship for one reason – their partner has never hit them, never used physical or sexual violence against them. Yet they feel diminished, their self-worth nose-dives, they live in constant fear of upsetting their partner and commonly speak of “walking on eggshells.”

This “psychological terrorism” is a dynamic that also profoundly affects the children in abusive relationships.

Those that experience DV may have a partner who continues to exercise control through constant telephone calls, tracking their partners’ movements using apps installed in their mobile phones, demanding detailed information about where they were, who they were with, what they said, how long they spent at which locations.

The various ways of abusive can be identified by the Power & Control model

The Facts

1 in 3 women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence perpetrated by someone known to them

1 in 5 women over 18 have been stalked during their lifetime

1 in 5 women experience harassment in the workplace

94% of employees asked agree that employers should take a leadership role in educating their workforce about respectful relationships


Pure Insights are very proud and humble of the work we are doing to support and assist those who experience Domestic Violence. To learn how we may assist you or your company please contact us.

If you or someone you know is experiencing violence and need help or support,
please contact one of the support hotline numbers below. 

  • 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) – 24hour DV helpline
  • Women’s Domestic Violence Helpline (WA) 1800 007 339 – 24hour service
  •  Men’s Domestic Violence Helpline (WA) 1800 000 599 – 24hour service
  •  No To Violence – 1300 766 491 (Vic) 24 hours – NSW & Tas / 8am-9pm weekdays & 9am-6pm weekends – all other states
  • Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 – 24hour service
  • Lifeline 13 11 14




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