Staying Mentally Healthy

It is often said that Failure is the key to Success. But the impacts of failure(s), especially for young people, often leave a significant footprint on our mindset and can potentially become a risk factor to our mental and emotional wellbeing.

As life often goes off the rails unexpectedly, how do we face failure and get back on track?

The key thing is to make sure you don’t beat yourself up over it. Giving up your preferred goals and destinations can be rough, especially when you least expect it. But it doesn’t mean the end of the world. It’s just an opportunity to learn and try again.

“Failure is the only opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.”
– Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company

Treat failure as a detour. If plan A does not work, try plan B. You’ve got 26 letters in the alphabet, and then thousands of numbers. Life is an endless road of options for rediscovering your goals. Keep up the positive mindset that even though failure is a setback, it does not sum up all of your values and talents. It is not who you are and how you define yourself.

“Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.”
– Zig Ziglar, motivational speaker

Take some time to reflect on your doings to see if there was anything else that could have been done. We all have our hindsight moments. Look back and learn. Even though not succeeding can make a big impact on your self-confidence and bring along huge disappointment, it’s worth recognising that you can always try to make things better. Identify what were the key issues of the situation. Some common factors that might be worth you tackling from a different angle include:
Overwhelming schedules and tasks – when too much is going on, it’s easy to lose focus and energy on overcoming the bigger barriers. Make sure you work on your balance, priorities, time management and above all, be brave to say no to temptations and distractions
Lack of “why” – when you’re unsure of the meanings behind your course of actions, it often leads to a decrease in motivation and hence, harder for you to stay focused
Limited support to keep up – sometimes we struggle on our own without the realisation that it could be a team effort for some projects. If you feel you’re lagging and not able to keep up, don’t be afraid to talk to your friends, colleagues or close ones for both practical and emotional support.

Learn the lesson, draw up a plan and research for other options. Have a look around, check out your strengths and development areas to see if there’s anything out there that works better for your plan towards success. Even though failure is a part of life, accepting its impact on our mental fitness and positive mindset is not easy. If you feel like it’s getting to you and continuously drowning you in disappointment, make sure to talk to someone and take courage to learn to bounce back.

“The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
– Thomas Edison, inventor