Building Self Confidence

We all lack confidence sometimes but individuals with low levels of self-confidence often appear unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.  Self-confidence is an important aspect of wellness, yet so many people struggle with it.  Confidence often comes from feelings of wellbeing, acceptance of your body and mind and belief in your own ability, skills and experience. Confident people often inspire confidence in others and gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.

Self-confidence takes training and practice to be built and developed effectively. How do you then assess your level of confidence? High level of self-confidence in an individual often displays in the way they handle conversations, the way they speak their mind and through their behaviours. Some of the indicators displayed by confident individuals include:

  • Believe in what you do and do what you believe to be right, despite what others think or criticise you for it
  • Admit your mistakes and learn from them
  • Accept compliments and congratulations on your achievement
  • Be willing to take risks to achieve better things
On the other hand, a person with low self-confidence often displays characteristics of:
  • Extremely critical of themselves
  • Ignore their positive qualities, achievements or strengths
  • Have negative mindset and use negative vocabulary to describe themselves
  • Employ negative self-talk and blame themselves when things go wrong
  • Refuse to believe others when they receive compliments about their achievements

Building self-confidence involves a process of continuous practice of different skill sets, in order to increase and maintain individual competence and positive mindset. The following strategies might be helpful for your plan on improving self-confidence.

Plan and prepare

Look at what you’ve achieved. List the things that you’re most proud of, whether it be your best sale figures or even just learning to play a sport
Think about your strengths. Reflect on your recent stressful events, consider what others would say about your strengths and how you can reinforce them in the future.
Set some goals

Goal setting helps you achieve targets and measure your success in hitting of those targets.

Set goals that exploit your strengths and allow you to improve your opportunities while reducing weakness and threats.

Establish a plan to work towards your goal. Make sure it’s broken down to small steps. Even small goals help you establish the confidence you need in achievement

Eliminate negative self-talk

Negative self-talks do not provide you with any benefits. Instead, learn to recognise these moments and employ strategies to overcome such manipulative behaviour.

If you start finding doubts, challenge them with rational and practical evidence, both for and against them.

Remember to reach out for support if you genuinely struggle with this strategy.

Improve your knowledge and skill sets

Identify the gaps in your skills and knowledge. Acquire these areas and continuously develop yourself both personally and professionally so that you constantly equip yourself to achieve your goals and hence, your confidence in such achievement.

Make sure to keep them simple and practical. Avoid stretching yourself with risk-taking behaviours to make sure you master these areas of development.

Find meanings in your progress
Believe in yourself and what you are doing is necessarily important in building your confidence. Find the meanings in your development, career paths, or even in everyday activities.
Embrace those moments where you achieve your goals. Celebrate (even small wins) and acknowledge your contribution. Be passionate about the things you’re good at
Having confidence in yourself takes conscious effort and practice.  Remember that self-confidence is an opinion that starts with yourself.  You can change your everyday attention and practice in boosting your level of confidence and find the right balance.Further ways to help improving your self-confidence include:

  • Talk to others (family members, loved ones, close friends) about your strengths. See what others around you have to say
  • Have a look through self-development books, workshops and reputable sources of information
  • Seek professional support (psychologist, counsellor, coach) to have neutral and helpful information on practical strategies
For more information on building self-confidence seminars and workshops, contact Pure Insights on 1300 796 640 or
“Nothing builds self esteem like accomplishment”